SM Journal

This page is about my personal stories and reflections; fragments drawn from sessions, encounters, and lived experience. Let them stir your imagination, or simply offer a glimpse into my craft.

The Dark Side Of Connection

I bet empathy can burn hundreds of calories, just like playing chess. Empathy can be depleted. One could do SM like a machine, with prearranged gestures to preserve their energies and disappear behind repetition. I don't do that. One should not approach this line of work without a great deal of empathy. Listening to every breath and word before, during, and after a session. But it can take its toll. A decade ago, a sadist friend of mine stressed that I am a magnet for sadomas

The Experienced No Limits Dude

You, chained up, strung out, screaming... Hot. Mastering pain and consent takes years. You wouldn’t dare speak like that if you’d ever been pushed the wrong way.

M4M Bondage of Straight Men

When the rope comes off , they begin to process something radical: the possibility of a new closeness with another man.

Discretion and BDSM

You don’t need to tell me your name. You won’t be asked to explain yourself. And if we passed on the street, no one would suspect what I do or what we shared behind closed doors. #Discretion #BDSM

Notes for my new ropes models

In professional domination, I don’t work with petite, trained Shibari models. I tie everyday people, and that’s where I find incredible, raw, non-theatrical beauty, no matter your shape or size.