Men Shibari: Ropes, Impact and a Kind Submissive

In kink, we speak in breath, in the way we twitch, tense, moan, look for touch, offer, defend, smell, beg, shake…

Not long ago someone asked me why I never look people in the eye. It’s true, I don’t. Not in everyday life. Unless I’m playing with them. Then I do, because when you’re tapped directly into your own kinks, it becomes very hard to pretend.

Today I had a beautiful four-hour session, centered on Chiaki Method shibari and impact play. It was wonderful. The man had never tried rope before, but something in my hogtie photos, and the way I write about kink on my blog, caught him. His emails were kind, respectful, and deeply sincere. His English was broken, but clear where it mattered. I understood him anyway.

We grossly overestimate how important words are. If you think consent is only about verbal agreement, you don’t understand consent.

In kink, we speak in breath, in the way we twitch, tense, moan, look for touch, offer, defend, smell, beg, shake… It’s all there, more than we can handle.

Turned out he was a rope slut, a spanking slut, and caning slut. Open, responsive, and kind. What a model! A joy to session with.

Pro-Dom Note on Shibari for Men: I find it fascinating how much of what we learn in the rope scene doesn’t apply to these wonderful people. Their knees maybe don’t bend, their backs or necks may be injured, but their fetishism opens up to so much creativity.