Journal

Being caned is about discipline, endurance, and offering oneself butt properly to any use. Calibration and punishment, in one clean lesson.

A reflection on two kinds of whippings, one born of S-M love and trust, the other focused on sensation.

Electro Butt Plug. What surprised him wasn’t endurance but how the electro buttplug made him feel: as if he were being fucked by an unstoppable bull.

Singapore Cane. I am the orchestra director, and you are the violin.

The whip strips away the idea that you are fragile. It leaves you standing in the truth of your own endurance, and that changes something

Now he stands as a Chastity Champion, a Fisting Champion, and soon, I know, a Whipping Champion too.

I bet empathy can burn hundreds of calories, just like playing chess. Empathy can be depleted. One could do SM like a machine, with prearranged gestures to preserve their energies and disappear behind repetition. I don't do that. One should not approach this line of work without a great deal of empathy. Listening to every breath and word before, during, and after a session. But it can take its toll. A decade ago, a sadist friend of mine stressed that I am a magnet for sadomas

I am preparing my Locktober Contracts for daring submissives sign. One month locked, no touching, no release. We will check-in often, perhaps meet. We decide your goals, I set you assignments.

Not long ago someone asked me why I never look people in the eye. It’s true, I don’t. Not in everyday life. Unless I’m playing with them. Then I do, because when you’re tapped directly into your own kinks, it becomes very hard to pretend. Today I had a beautiful four-hour session, centered on Chiaki Method shibari and impact play. It was wonderful. The man had never tried rope before, but something in my hogtie photos, and the way I write about kink on my blog, caught him. Hi